[:en][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12" el_class="rightside"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3511" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-1.png" alt="trust-daddy-1" width="339" height="221" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]Becoming a mother is one of the most wonderful things in the world. You have someone to nurture, lead and love so entirely that nothing else can come close by comparison. Strong mother’s intuition lets you connect to baby and anticipate his or her every need. But whilst having this natural instinct to protect baby is great, does it make it hard for you to trust others to care for baby? Even when it is your husband?

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Think about this – you are exhausted after weeks of late-night feedings, diaper changing, and performing household chores at the same time. You could really do with a good lie-in without having to worry about anything for a day or two. However, just thinking about handing over the reins to hubby to take care of the little one sends shivers down your spine, even though you know he’s a great dad and caregiver. If this sounds like you, you may have trust issues.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3512" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-2.png" alt="trust-daddy-2" width="339" height="260" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>Building the foundation of trust</strong>

As with anything else, start slowly. If he has not yet had the chance to handle baby completely on his own, allow him to first handle some of the ‘smaller responsibilities’. Let him warm up the milk, draw baby a bath and put baby down for a nap. When you see that he is capable of doing all these things (and doing them well), you would naturally begin to trust him for more demanding tasks. It will then be easier for you to let go and allow him to take over from you whenever you need.

However, one thing you need to remember is not to hover behind him as he is carrying out his tasks. As difficult as it may be, do not fuss, nag, micro-manage, criticise or comment on him doing things ‘the wrong way’. Just because he has his own way of going about it does not make it wrong. Trust him to discover and navigate for himself the joys of caring for baby.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12" el_class="rightside"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3513" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-3.png" alt="trust-daddy-3" width="339" height="234" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]<strong>Understanding hubby’s needs</strong>

Just like you, hubby needs to connect and bond with baby. You need to understand that this is a very important aspect in a father-child relationship and allow him the opportunity to strengthen it as baby grows. So leave baby in daddy’s care, go out for the day and relax. Trust that everything will be alright. And if you need some kind of reassurance, bring your mobile phone along so hubby can call if he needs to.

It is also important that you spend some time to discuss the matter. He needs to understand what you are feeling and going through, and you need to know his thoughts, too. This is a great opportunity for the both of you to work together and overcome this hurdle.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3514" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-4.png" alt="trust-daddy-4" width="339" height="224" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>Partners in parenting</strong>

A mother should have confidence and trust that her hubby can take care of things and look after baby. Doubt, even when unexpressed, can isolate him from you and baby, robbing him of some of the most precious moments of fatherhood. Always bear in mind that parenting is a partnership. Baby needs as much care and attention from you as from daddy. So give hubby a chance. Not only will his bond with baby become stronger, you can get the rest you need as well… worry-free![/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][:zh][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12" el_class="rightside"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3511" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-1.png" alt="trust-daddy-1" width="339" height="221" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]做妈妈是世界上最美好的事情之一 - 这种全身心去孕育、引导和爱着宝宝的情感是任何事物都无法比拟的。
强烈的母子天性能够让您与宝宝心灵相通，提前感知到宝宝的所有需求。

但尽管这种爱护宝宝的本能十分伟大，您又是否因为它而很难相信别人去照顾您的宝宝呢？
即使照顾宝宝的人是您的丈夫也是否依然如此呢？

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试想一想 – 经过数周的深夜喂奶、换尿布和做家务之后，您已经精疲力尽。
您真的非常想拥有1至2天的时间可以无忧无虑的睡觉休息。

然而，只要想到要让丈夫来照顾宝宝 - 尽管您知道他是一个伟大的爸爸兼保姆 - 您就不寒而栗。
如果您存在这种情况，那么您可能存在信任问题。[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3512" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-2.png" alt="trust-daddy-2" width="339" height="260" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>建立信任</strong>

和其他所有事情一样，慢慢来。
如果他从未有过机会完全靠自己来照顾宝宝，可以先让他干一些“零碎活”。
例如，让他热一下牛奶、给宝宝洗个澡或把宝宝哄睡。
当您发现他能够完成所有这些事情（并且能做好），您就会自然而然的相信他能够完成更加艰巨的任务。

然后您就会更加情愿的在需要的时候放手让他来接替您。
但是，您需要记住的一件事便是在他做这些事情的时候不要跟踪观察。
尽管刚开始他可能做起来比较吃力，但请不要抱怨、唠叨、苛求细节、批评或评论他做事的“方式是错的”。

有时候，这可能是因为他有他自己的做事方式，而这个方式也并不一定是错的。
您要相信他能够自己探索并找到照顾宝宝的乐趣。[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12" el_class="rightside"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3513" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-3.png" alt="trust-daddy-3" width="339" height="234" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]<strong>理解丈夫的需求 </strong>

跟您一样，您的丈夫也需要与宝宝互动并加深关系。
您要明白，这是父子关系中非常重要的方面，所以在宝宝逐渐长大的过程中，试着多给他机会去加强父子关系。
所以，您完全可以让丈夫去照顾宝宝，然后走出户外放松一下。

请相信，一切都会安好。
如果您实在放心不下，可以随身携带手机，让您的丈夫在必要时可以给您打电话。

另外，您还要花点时间和您的丈夫探讨一下这个问题，因为这同样很重要。
他需要了解您的感受和内心的挣扎，而您也需要知道他的想法。
这是你们同心协力克服这个障碍的一个绝佳机会。[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3514" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/trust-daddy-4.png" alt="trust-daddy-4" width="339" height="224" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>育儿伙伴</strong>

作为妈妈，应该要有信心并相信丈夫能够完成照顾宝宝的重任。
怀疑，即使不曾表达出来，也会在他与您和宝宝之间建起隔阂，并且抢走他作为父亲而本该拥有的一些最珍贵时刻。
您需时刻谨记：父母是合作伙伴。

宝宝需要您和丈夫尽可能多的照顾和关注。
所以，请给您的丈夫一个机会。
这样做不仅能够加强父子关系，还可以让您获得您所需要的休息…并且高枕无忧！[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][:]