[:en][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]If you think you can go back to the way things used to be before the arrival of baby, think again. Gone are the days where you can roll about in bed past nine in the morning, take a good long coffee break in the afternoon and put your feet up in the evening to watch Grease reruns uninterrupted. Along with the new baby comes the 'new normal' where every parent will have to adjust to and embrace. Here are some of the things you can expect to happen and how to cope with them while remaining as intimate as ever with your significant other.

<!--more-->[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12" el_class="rightside"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3519" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/baby-arrives-1.png" alt="baby-arrives-1" width="310" height="268" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]<strong>Baby blues</strong>

It is normal for a mother to feel a little blue after giving birth. After all, you have gone through an awful lot for the past nine months, and for it to have come to an end all too quickly, some parts of you will wish you were still carrying baby inside you. Instead of blaming yourself for these feelings, know that these feelings are transitory, and you will feel your normal self again after a week or so. Train yourself to focus on what you have gained - a beautiful baby - whom you can enjoy loving and nurturing as he or she grows. For hubbies, do not take any outbursts or rejection personally. A little patience and understanding goes a long way and it will greatly help if you could take over the household chores for a while, or take the family out for a mini-picnic every now and then when the sun is shining.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3522" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/baby-arrives-2.png" alt="baby-arrives-2" width="310" height="268" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>The organised mess</strong>

Face it - you will not have time to clean and straighten the house every single day with a new born. Being cross with hubby and nagging him constantly about the state of the house will not help either. So do what is important first, like laundry, cooking and sterilising baby's bottles. The rest, such as stacking baby toys neatly into the cupboard or arranging shoes so they are all lined up in a straight row can wait for when you have more time to spare. Also, when you need help, ask nicely and directly. Do not hint or start banging pots and pans around in frustration as hubby will have no clue as to what is it you want. And do not forget to thank him after. Knowing that he is appreciated may just encourage him to do the same in return.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12" el_class="rightside"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3521" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/baby-arrives-3.png" alt="baby-arrives-3" width="383" height="266" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]<strong>The 'M' word</strong>

You knew that having a baby would be expensive, but you didn't realise just how much of the family income would be going towards baby in a single month! With baby around, you can no longer to buy that fancy dress on a whim, or to splurge on a pair of tailored trousers you know would look so good on hubby. Even grocery shopping has become a tiny mathematics exercise as you have to factor in baby's necessities, too. So plan together with hubby on the major financial decisions - insurance, savings account and tax plans, and work with what is left over after all the necessary expenses have been paid for. It will be stressful for the both of you, especially for the first year, but you will soon learn to live within your means. You will be surprised at how much you have spent before on things that you do not really need, and how well you are living now without them.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]<img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3520" src="http://tollyjoy.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/baby-arrives-4.png" alt="baby-arrives-4" width="323" height="298" />[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>The threesome</strong>

Being accustomed to life with just hubby and yourself, the arrival of baby will most certainly change things. You both will find that you can no longer have a spontaneous night out with friends, or take an extended weekend away together at the spur of the moment. At home, you are no longer alone together but will have to divide your attention to baby's needs. There are times too, that hubby or yourself may feel resentful of the amount of time the other is spending with baby instead of each other. However, having a baby does not mean that you should forgo quality time spent apart and/or together. Take turns staying home while the other spends time with friends. Hire a babysitter, or ask grandma to watch baby on date nights free of 'baby talk' where you both can reconnect and recapture the romance. Stick to the agreed schedule as much as you can, and soon the both of you will look forward to these dates with eagerness.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][:zh][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]

如果您认为可以在宝宝诞生后回到之前的生活，那您可能会大吃一惊。随着宝宝的来临，您早上赖床、午后悠长的下午茶时间以及晚上不受干扰地追看电视节目的日子已经一去不复返了。此外，与每个新生宝宝一起来临的还有每位父母都必须适应并接受的“新常态”。本文将介绍一些预期会发生的情况，以及如何在维持您与另一半亲密关系的同时妥善应对一切。

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[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]<strong>产后忧郁</strong>

妈妈在产后感到有点忧郁是正常的。毕竟，您在过去九个月的经历并不轻松，而一切突然结束的错愕感有时会让您甚至希望自己还处于怀孕的状态。不过，您应该了解的是，这些感受都是暂时性的，大约一周过后您就会重新恢复正常，所以您大可不必为产生这些感受而感到内疚。您应训练自己专注于您所获得的东西 — 一个在其成长的过程中可让您尽情宠爱和培养的漂亮宝宝。对于爸爸们而言，不要过于在意妻子任何的情绪爆发或排斥情绪，而应付出多一点耐心和理解来帮助妻子度过这个阶段。如果您可以承担一段时期的家务，或者在阳光灿烂的日子里不时带全家人外出进行小型野餐，那将对整个情况有很大的帮助。[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]

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[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>乱中有序</strong>

面对现实吧，有了新生婴儿后，您将不再有时间每天清扫和整理房间。向老公发火或不断就家中的状况向其抱怨，都是于事无补的。在这种情况下，您应首先从重要的事情做起，例如洗衣、做饭以及给宝宝的奶瓶消毒。其他的事务，例如把宝宝的玩具整理好收到柜子里或把鞋子摆放整齐，则可以等到有时间的时候再做。另外，如果您需要帮助，那就应该直接地向老公提出，而不是委婉暗示，或大闹一场，因为您的老公只会一脸茫然，对您内心的需求毫无头绪。您也应该在老公帮上忙后对他表示感谢，因为当他知道您肯定了他的付出后，他在日后也会更加体贴您。[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12" el_class="rightside"][vc_column_text]

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[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12" el_class="leftside"][vc_column_text]<strong>财务问题</strong>

尽管您已知道，有了宝宝后开销会增加，但是您肯定没有意识到每个月到底有多少家庭收入会花在宝宝身上！有了宝宝，您再也不能凭一时兴起去购买时尚的衣裙，或为了一条定制的裤子而一掷千金（尽管您知道老公穿上会帅气十足）。甚至连购买生活用品都必须进行一番计算，因为您必须将宝宝的必需品也考虑在内。所以，您应与老公一起对主要的财务决定进行规划，包括保险、储蓄和税务计划，并对扣除所有须支付的必要开支后的剩余部分善加利用。这对你们两人而言并不轻松，尤其是在第一年里；不过，相信你们很快就能学会量入为出。这时，您可能会吃惊的发现，以前自己在那些并非真正需要的东西上浪费不菲，而如今没有了这些您仍然能生活得很好。[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width="5/12"][vc_column_text]

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[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width="7/12"][vc_column_text]<strong>三口之家</strong>

对于习惯了只有自己和老公一起生活的您而言，宝宝的来临很可能会带来诸多变化。你们两个都会发现，自己再也不能随性地与朋友外出玩个通宵，或者临时兴起出门共度一个长周末。在家时，你们也不再是单独共处，而必须分配精力照顾宝宝。有时，您的老公或您自己可能会为对方花费过多的时间在宝宝身上而不是相互之间而感到不满。然而，有了宝宝并不意味着你们应放弃各自和/或共同度过的宝贵时间。你们可以轮流留守家中，而让另一半与朋友相聚言欢。此外，你们也能聘请保姆或请宝宝的祖父母在你们约会的夜晚帮忙照看宝宝，以便你们两人可以把握机会过过二人世界，重温浪漫时光。只需尽量遵守约好的时间，很快你们两人都会对这样的约会满怀期待。

尽管您会需要一些时间才能习惯随着宝宝而来的新需求，不过只要通过与伴侣携手合作并采取某些实际的步骤，你们两人就绝对能够逐渐适应这种“新常态”，并很快会对宝宝来临之前的生活抛到脑后。[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][:]